Showing posts with label Breathing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Breathing. Show all posts

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Sometimes Reality Does Bite But There is One Thing That Can Help...





Self-Honesty

Change cannot truly take place without it

Recovery cannot happen without it

It is a simple action

It is a life changing action

It is scary

It is relief

It is liberating

Makes one breath deeper

It can really suck

Reality bites

Again

Change cannot take place without it

It requires one to take responsibility

For their actions

For their life

Facing ones truth

Just one truth about self

Can change ones life

No more hiding

No more pretending

No more wasted energy

Self-Honesty

Gets you on your knees

Breaks down walls

It can open doors

To new worlds and possibilites

Its scary

Its exciting

Its simple

Yet

One

Of

The

Hardest

Things

To Do

Getting honest with your self

Have you done it lately?

Just one thing?

One

itsy

bitsy

teeny weeny

tiny

thing

you have

not been facing

about

YOU.


Well, it is none of my business anyway if you have or have not been facing anything.  I just write this stuff as it comes through:)  However,  in the process of writing the above I felt myself pushing down something that has been trying to come to the surface for me to look at for the past week or so.  So the above really does speak some truth.  Crap.  Now that I wrote it I can't ignore whats coming up.  I can.  I always have a choice.  Denial really sucks though.  Ha.  Time for me to go journal.......













Wednesday, August 21, 2013

One Foot In The Past- The Other In The Future-Pissing On The Present or Try This...

"If you have your full attention in the moment, you will see only love." -Deepak Chopra

After my blog post from yesterday I figured it would be nice to keep this one a bit lighter in the subject matter.

I simply want to share a cool experience I had the other evening.  It was very brief yet incredibly powerful.  It was like a yoga class in the seat of my car. I also want to say it felt like something I would have read about in Eckhart Tolle's book, "The Power Of Now."  I can't be sure.  The last time I picked up that book was in 2003.  I think I read one chapter and part of me is still suspended in 2003 trying to comprehend what the hell he was talking about.  I mean I am fairly certain I felt the power of now and I didn't need to read a whole book to understand it.

Anyways, here is the set up:

My hub and I were driving back from watching a movie the other night.  It was actually a really funny movie.  Funny in the way that I would be mortified if I went and watched it with my parents.  As we were driving along I felt my muscles start to relax from soaking in the soothing motion of the car.  I remember noticing and really appreciating the temperature outside and how nice it felt on my skin.  As I continued to melt into the passenger seat I had a flash back of a yoga and meditation workshop I had attended the previous Sunday at The Ivy House in Nashville.  I could see my teacher, Corrine, and just for a moment I heard her say the Deepak Chopra quote she repeats often, "If you have your full attention in the moment, you will only see love."

For some reason I decided to give it a go and find out about that moment.  Would I really see love?  With my eyes closed I began following my breath so I could make a conscious connection to my body- especially my heart.  I kept focusing on my inhalation, my exhalation, and the beat of my heart.  I then set an intention to not allow any thoughts to surface about my past or my future.  I just wanted to be completely present in the moment.  So I did just that.  Warm breeze on my skin, humming of the motor, my hubby peacefully holding the steering wheel.  I breathed.  I felt it.  What came next literally only lasted for a few moments because that is all I could do to keep myself completely present.  

In those few precious moments I felt peace.  In that small space of time there was no need to worry.  I knew everything that I needed in life was contained in that moment and there was nothing that I was lacking. I was present.  I had food in my belly, a car taking me to a house with a warm bed, a loving husband. My breath was giving me life and allowing me to experience this.  There was nothing I needed to be, buy, regret, or anticipate.  I had my breath, peace, acceptance, and love.  I was content.  I had everything.  And then........POOF! 

It was fleeting. In those few moments "the observer" part of me was also present.  I could feel a crazy energy bouncing around in my head.  It was unbelievable.  It was like I was feeling the amount of energy that is used on a daily basis to fuel the racing thoughts in my head of the past and future.  Even though I did not allow  thoughts of the past or future enter my consciousness I could still feel their energy.  Bouncing. Flitting. Fighting. Trying to be noticed. Wanting to be acknowledged.  All I could think of when I came back into my head and allowed the thoughts to flood forth once again was, "OMG, how freaking exhausting!"   

Then I observed my thoughts as we continued to drive home.  Yep.  The subject matter of my thoughts would bounce from images of my past to thoughts and fears about my future.  I was not living in the present at all.  I was not appreciating or trusting that all that I had in the moment was all I needed.  No. Something in quietly whispered, "more."  Be more.  Do more. Prove more.  Buy More.  You need more.  Then life will be okay. The rest of the ride home I observed how my mind was living in two different time periods.  It took way to much effort to keep myself in the present.  Way to much.  It  really is quite exhausting to live in two different time periods. 

Man I know some of this may sound cheesy and airy fairy.  I am just saying it is not a secret that most of us have one foot in the past and one foot in the future and basically end up pissing on the present or a kinder way to say that would be, missing the present.

All I am saying is if you happen to be reading this and sometime today you want check out the gifts of your "present moment"  go for it. Do what I did above or whatever works for you to start shifting out of your head and connecting consciously to your body and heart.  Following the breath is what I always recommend.  See what happens for you.  Intend not to allow any thoughts from the past of future enter. Stay present to what is in the moment.  Connect to gratitude. Those past and present thoughts may still be there playing around in your head.  Wanting to be noticed.  You may feel them as energy in your head but by staying connected to your breath and body you don't have let them affect you.  Just for a few moments.   Allow the observer part of you to be present and notice how your brain feels.  

Is there a racing energy in it?  

Are you able to stay completely present to everything that is contained in those moments? 

Are you able to feel appreciation and gratitude?

What does it feel like to not be wondering about the past or future?

Can you receive the present/the gift that is being offered in the moments?   

How long can you sustain before the thoughts come rushing forth?

Give it a go....see what happens.  All you will miss out on is a few moments of head clutter. It will be there when you come back.  You may even come back with a little less clutter and a bit more peace.  Who knows!?

Will you see only love in the moment?  I did.  It was in the form of gratitude and contentment.  

Oh, and if you do decide to embrace your moment I would love to know what you experienced. Seriously.  Be airy fairy.  Go for it.  Its fun.  Please post your comments in the section down below and not on the Facebook comments.  I'd like to start building the comments within the blog.  Thanks!


Medicine for out of control time travel and racing thoughts:

Breathing, Meditation and/or Dancing.  Seriously.  For some dance is  their meditation.    They all work.  





Thursday, August 2, 2012

Living My Truth Makes Me Want To Throw Up!

The thought of "living my truth" is making me queasy.  The dream of living my "authentic life" is terrifying me right now.  It is terrifying and confusing in different ways.

Yesterday I attended a mindful living course at my church, Unity Church for Positive Living.  It was week one of a 9 week course being facilitated by Rev. Denise Yeargin.  I arrived a couple minutes late and quietly made my way towards the sanctuary.  As I tip toed closer to the open door of the room I noticed everyone was sitting in silence with eyes closed.  I stood in the door way being mindful as to not make noise.

Rev. Denise saw me, walked over and lovingly put her arms around me. She whispered in my ear that everyone was in a few minutes of silence to set their intention for the course and life in general for the next 9 weeks.  I could feel my breath grow shallow and fear break dancing in my stomach.  I knew right away what my intention was.  I couldn't help but to know what it was.  I felt like I had no other choice of intention. I mean I always have a choice. Everyone has the God given right to choose in any moment how their life is going to go.

I do have the choice to keep on living in an unauthentic state of being.

I do have the choice to continue walking around feeling half alive knowing the outside does not match the inside.

I always have the choice of  feeling confused, frustrated and angry.

I can choose to embrace the fear of change and personal empowerment.

I can choose to discover who I really am as the life built from childhood trauma wounds crumbles away.

I can choose to believe in myself once and for all.

 I can choose to continue staying in my comfort zone which actually should be renamed "pain zone."

I always have a choice.

The intention I chose last night was to "Discover and Live My Truth." It sounds so simple, right?  Wrong!  As I shared what I had written with my small group one gentleman shared that living in ones truth is probably one of the hardest things for anyone to do.  "That's just great." I thought.  "Is there anything I do in my life that doesn't require 150% intensity!?"


The truth that I know so far is I am being confronted with something I have been avoiding for almost 20 years and I am scared out of my mind to walk into it and through it.  The truth is if I do it I just may discover what I am actually made of.  The truth is I was born an "artist" and I will do anything right now to avoid being creative.  I have been told I am a fairy whose light has short circuited because I disconnected myself from the very things that allow fairies inner lights to shine.


The truth is I asked for this.  I asked to be a trauma survivor not a victim.  I asked the divine for what I needed to do to allow myself to live a life in color.  I asked this past weekend at the Oneness Deepening for the blocks to be removed so I could connect authentically with myself and the world.  I asked for Awakening. Oh good God, I had no idea what would hit me afterwards!


A mindful way of living right now is what will keep me connected to discovering what I need to do to live my truth.  When I am fully connected with the moment of now and in my body I cannot run from the truth.  I have to feel it.  If I keep feeling it eventually I have to do something about it.  I have to make a choice.


We were asked last night to share some ways in which one could come into a mindful state of being.  My first answer was and always will be "the breath."  Breathing is the fastest way to bring one to the present moment.  Deep breathing past the chest and into the center of the body.  It is the fastest route to bringing calm within and allowing for feelings and awareness to bubble up to the surface.

I have to keep acknowledging my fear right now. I have to surrender to it and fully feel it. That is the only way I can walk through it.  I have to be mindful of what is going on within because that is where my answers and direction reside.  The only way I can keep moving forward is to keep in the present moment as much as possible.


This is the year.  This is the time.


Surrender.